How-to: Clear Your Mind of Self-Doubt & Boost Your Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is a serious game changer. When you believe in yourself you open up to your ideal life and you are able to find the positive in any situation. You are able to conquer any self-doubt. When you are confident, it shows and other people believe in you too.
However, high self-esteem doesn’t come naturally to all of us and many of us feel limited by our self-doubt. If you’ve ever struggled to believe in yourself, or if you want to give your self-esteem a boost this Spring these 10 steps will have you feeling more confident and less self-doubt in no time.
1. Smile to yourself in the mirror
This may feel cheesy and even a little embarrassing at first. But it works. Whenever you look in the mirror, lock eyes with yourself and offer yourself a loving grin. When you smile, even to your own reflection, you release feel-good chemicals in your brain. The more often you do it, the happier you will feel in your own skin.
2. Acknowledge the critical voice in your head
We all have an inner critic, but you don’t need to listen to this mean voice.
When you start to acknowledge this voice, you also begin to separate your self from it. You start to realise that this voice doesn’t speak the truth.
Every time you notice these mean thoughts pop up, make a conscious effort to counter these thoughts with a positive thought about yourself ie. if your inner critic tells you that you have fat thighs, you could instead focus on the strength of your thighs and marvel at the way they help you run, dance or balance through a yoga class.
If you suffer from low self-esteem it’s often because you feel uncomfortable with your own thoughts or within your body. If this is the case for you, spend some time in stillness, and start getting comfortable in yourself. If you are new to meditation it may feel uncomfortable at first, or you may be confronted by your fears or insecurities. But if you stick with a short, regular meditation practice, you will soon connect with yourself on a deeper level and you will learn to accept your true self.
4. Spend less time on social media
How much time do you spend on social media? If you’re like most people, you probably spend a huge chunk of time on social media each day. And if you find yourself comparing and contrasting your life / body / hair / relationships against the ones you see on social media, it may be a sign that you need to spend less time glued to the screen. If your phone is the first thing you reach for when you wake up, switch things up.
When you get up, take at least 30 minutes to yourself before you dive into the world of social media.
5. Stop measuring your self-worth
Many of us are obsessed with getting to our elusive goal weight. If this is you, ditch the scales for a month and watch your self-esteem start to soar. Perhaps you measure your self-worth through your clothing size, how much money you make, or the grades you get at school. Whatever it is, it’s time to stop using it to determine whether or not you feel good about yourself. I want you to know that none of these external measurements are equal to your self-worth.
Having high self-esteem doesn’t come from achieving your goal weight or getting straight A’s.
Self-esteem is something that comes from within, and it means being happy with yourself, for exactly who you are in this very moment.
6. Move your body
Exercise has been shown to improve your mood and boost self-esteem. In order to truly experience the benefits of regular exercise, find an exercise style or routine that you love. If you hate running, or if working out at the gym bores you to tears – stop doing it. Instead, experiment with different ways of adding more movement into your life. Enjoy the warmer weather and move your body outdoors. Take a 30 minute walk on your lunch break, try a new yoga or barre class, go for a hike on the weekend, or even give something like rock-climbing a try.
7. Surround yourself with people who love and support you
If you’re having a rough day and you just can’t muster up any self-love, surround yourself with people who love you. Visit your parents, spend time with your partner, or invite your friends over. If there are people who bring you down or make you feel bad about yourself, stop spending time with them. They are doing nothing for your self-esteem and you don’t need people like that in your life. Focus on building and nurturing the positive relationships in your life, and watch as the relationship you have with yourself grows as well. Sometimes, in order to see the good in ourselves, we need to surround ourselves with people who are able to see this when we aren’t.
8. Stop should’ing all over yourself
Low self-esteem and self-doubt often stems from a feeling that you aren’t the person you should be. You have an idea in your head of how you should act, what you should do, who you should be, and how other people should see you. If you don’t think you live up to these ‘shoulds’ you are bound to be unhappy. Stop worrying about all of the things you think you should do or the way you think you should behave. Instead, work on accepting how you are right now. Rather than focusing on the things you don’t have or that you wish you had, practice gratitude and be thankful for what you do have. At the end of each think of one thing that you are grateful for, or one thing that made you smile that day.
Flipping your perspective from one of lack, to one of abundance will help boost your self-esteem.
9. Change the way you talk about yourself
How you talk about yourself is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you are always talking negatively about yourself and pointing out all of your supposed flaws, you’re bound to have low self-esteem. Instead of always putting yourself down, and start using positive language. Don’t shy away from sharing your strengths or talking about the good things happening in your life. And don’t be afraid to compliment yourself either.
10. Make self-care a daily habit
When you look after yourself on a soulful level, you will feel good in your own skin. When you prioritise your self-care you are also acknowledging your self-worth.
Self-care doesn’t need to be complicated and it doesn’t need to take hours of your time either.
Simply do one thing a day that makes you feel good – whether that be reading before bed, taking a bath, lighting your favourite candle or spending a few minutes mindfully sipping your favourite tea. As we move into Spring and the weather starts warming up, now is the perfect time to Spring clean your mind of self-doubt. Boosting your self-confidence doesn’t need to be hard – all it takes is a little bit of conscious effort each day.
Do you have a different go-to strategy to rid self-doubt and ramp up your self-confidence? Help us create a sisterhood of beautiful, confident women by sharing your tips in the comment section below.
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